Pains and sores are something that many of us have to put up with. In our day to day work, we find ourselves doing repetitive tasks that lead to these chronic pains.
Athletes are notorious for getting these sores. Artists as well.
Many times, they, like us, learn to put up with those pains that we get over time.
But that’s not the way it has to be, according to today’s guest.
After developing her own pains from playing instruments, Rinna Mai decided that she had to find out was going on.
She soon developed a method to deal with her pains. Soon, others wanted her to work on them.
The more people wanted her help, the more she sought after new knowledge.
Today, Rinna finds herself going into medical school so that she can help people heal on all levels.
Daniel and I talk with her to find out more about her journey, what advice she has for folks with migraines, and why in the world she would put herself through a college career in her late 20’s.
As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!
SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:
What kind of formal education did Rinna have growing up? 7:19
Why’s it important for the teacher and student to have the same vision? 14:53
What kind of support did Rinna have in pursuing her music and healing work? 18:54
How did her career get kicked off in her healing work? 29:08
After her success in her healing work, why did she go back for a doctorate in her mid 20’s? 40:00
What are some ways of dealing with migraines that anyone who has them can try? 47:57
What’s her experience been like going back to school in her late 20’s? 59:47
How did she get back into music and teaching it? 1:01:40
Who are here top 3 favorite influencers or teachers? 1:09:14
What are her 3 Favorite top books she tells others about? 1:13:07
One gift she likes giving others? 1:14:43
One thing all high school students must know? 1:16:12
How can someone be a difference maker in their own community? 1:18:04
Gabor Maté: The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power:
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The world crafts us to be a certain way, there’s no doubt about it.
To this day, most formal education teaches us to be employees.
However, there’s some formal education out there that teaches to our strengths.
But many times, those places are really hard to get into because of the highly custom work they do.
Today’s guest, Alexis Parris, worked hard enough in her craft of dancing to get into one of those schools.
However, she soon learned that while she was good, if not great, at dancing, she had work to do that she really wanted to help people with.
Finding their true gifts themselves.
In this session, Daniel Postma and I chat with Alexis to find out more about her path, including why she left her amazing dancing career to pursue her new dreams, how she’s been able to get great mentors in her life, and what she truly believes that personal development means and why it’s so important.
As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!
SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:
What was the process like in Alexis getting started as an entrepreneur? 7:18
How did she get into dancing early on? 9:45
When did she realize she wanted to do something other than dance as a career? 11:41
What made her make that choice? 12:37
How did she learn her definition of sacrifice vs what most people think of it as? 14:25
What made her quit school altogether? 18:39
How would Alexis like to change the world? 21:22
What inspired the name of her company “Anomalies at Work”? 25:05
How does Alexis reach out to people who aren’t tuned into bettering their lives and those around them? 33:04
Why did she chose the title “Why I Quit College to Learn” for her book? 34:19
How she would recommend getting mentors into your life. 35:08
What made her write her book? 41:08
What kind of journal does she use to document and keep records? 44:07
What does personal development involve? 46:22
Influencers who have helped her to where she is today? 52:32
One gift she likes giving others. 52:54
A piece of advice that has changed her mindset the most? 53:25
One thing all high school students must know? 54:04
How can someone be a difference maker in their community? 54:57
Gary V on being real with yourself about who you are vs who you want to be.
Jim Rohn on Taking Charge of Your Life:
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One thing that the many non-millennials of the world make fun of millennials for is the fact we believe that we’re all pretty “little snowflakes”.
Well, truth is, we are.
But not in the way that we think we deserve a special life. Because in that respect, we don’t deserve anything. Sorry, but there are no participation trophies in real life.
We and everyone else in the world is a ”precious little snowflake” because we all have a uniqueness to us.
We have passions and interests not everyone else has.
(If you believe otherwise, then maybe you’re looking forward to the day that 1984 is a reality.)
To be a true creative, you’ll need to figure out what those are in order to be the most valuable to others. You need to find out what makes you, you.
You’ll need to become more self aware.
In this post, I’ll give you some pointers in how you can find out how you’re different from your peers so you share what you’re about to others a bit easier!
My Journey to Finding Out What I’m Interested In
I’ve always been someone who makes friends on the web rather easily. In fact, oddly enough, for many millennials, it’s almost easier to make friends online, than it is in person.
The first friends that I made online were through a chat forum with my original ISP. Every day after school, we’d hop onto the NetUSA1.net chat, and people would just go about discussing their days.
I quickly came to find out that I had a lot of interests in common with people who didn’t go to my school. Today I’d even go as far as saying I simply didn’t fit at my high school.
I didn’t realize it at the time, but was a proto-millennial.
My classmates were more Gen X influenced. Even today when I talk to many of them, I realize that they’re not readily accustomed to the web and technology as I and younger millennials are. For many of them, they’re technology immigrants. They only utilize it when they have to.
That said, I realized what sets me apart from my peers in this regard.
I excel at understanding entrepreneurial tech and love to show others how to use it in a way that will help multiply their business results.
Have Conviction in What You’re Doing
As a creator, you don’t really want to pursue anything unless you strongly believe that it needs to exist, or what you’re discussing is an important topic.
Just because you’re good at something, doesn’t mean that doing that something professionally is a good match for you.
Take, for example, when I was teaching algebra for a couple of years.
Could I do it? Sure! I love to teach.
Could I teach it? Yeah.
Did I have a believe that those who I was teaching it to needed to know it? Possibly.
Did I really envision myself teaching algebra for a prolonged period of time? Nope!!
Also, when other folks start finding out what you’re about, you don’t want to be changing your focus.
You want to be known as the guy or gal who helps ________ do ______ so that others can ________.
If you’re bouncing around from thing to thing and those topics aren’t connected, then people aren’t really going to understand what you’re all about. This might mean that you lose in opportunity, and potential fans and/or clients down the road.
Show That Belief through Passion and Energy
This goes off the last one a bit, but you’ll need to be pumped each time you have the opportunity to share or do something involved with whatever it is that you like discussing. An easy way to find out what pumps you up is finding out what you naturally talk and learn about in your free time.
When I was making those friends on the web, we’d discuss all kinds of geeky things. From games to computers, and even science. We’d also chat about all the crap that we had to deal with in school. Even back then, I can see the seeds of what I’m discussing with you here via New Inceptions.
When you’re thrilled to discuss a topic with other people, it shows. For one, you likely won’t know when to stop going on about the topic. (Been there, done that – still do it.) And two, they’ll probably get energetic from the conversation just because you are. Even if tomorrow they need another kick of your motivation. But hey, you’ll be glad to share it, right?
Give Your Perspective on Other’s Results, Content, and Role Modeling through your own Experiences
Whatever is important to you, chances are there’s going to be other people you learned it from. Whether you’re into cars, video games, sports, fitness, etc., there’s other people who are already doing what you’re going to be doing – just maybe not exactly how you want to do your version.
First, your small difference in how you do things is what’s going to separate you from them. And secondly, you can use those differences to discuss your perspective on what they’re talking about.
I’ve mentioned so many people in this blog that I’ve learned things from over the years. What sets me apart from Pat Flynn and SPI, for example, is that on my show, I have co-hosts. Or the fact that my guests are easy to relate to for beginners. Or, perhaps it’s the fact that I have a more academic background than he does.
Point being, you can talk the same topics as other people, but let who you are guide the actual conversation.
Surround Yourself with People You Want to Be Like
Ok, so this one is fairly simple. You’ve heard that you’re the average of the 5 (or 10) people you’re around the most? Yeah, other people are going to judge you based on who you surround yourself with.
If other people are considered gurus in their field of expertise and you hung around them, would you automatically be considered a guru as well? Maybe.
If you were hanging out with bikers in a bar somewhere and some saw you there – would they consider you a biker? It’s very likely.
You’re the company you keep, internally and externally.
Synthesize and Deliver Your Own Product or Services
Once you start expanding on the ideas of people in your field and you’re getting the chance to network with people you admire and want to make part of your network, wouldn’t it make sense to actually walk the walk?
For us in the online information world, that product comes in the form of content. Whether it’s free like this blog post, or it’s a premium course, content is a product.
As a creator, you need to have your own product or services to deliver and/or offer as well.
Experience
If you’re just starting out in your own business or project, people might question your credibility because your new. The way that most people deal with this is through leveraging their experience.
For example, maybe you’re just starting out as a woodworker like David Picciuto and you want to make a name for yourself. What he did was rely on his knowledge he obtained from his marketing years to help him develop his platform on YouTube. Maybe you don’t have a marketing background, but you might know someone that does and you can have them make videos of your work. They get noticed as the videographer, you get noticed as the woodworker.
Win-win.
Be Current
This one is pretty simple. No one wants old information unless it’s timeless information. But even then, you need to look like you’re keeping with the times. If your site looks wonky and unprofessional, then people are going to get that impression of you, the owner.
If your branding looks like it’s something straight from 2007 – then people are going to think that it’s from an old site OR they’re going to think you’re just not with the times.
Obviously this has more ramifications in some industries more than others.
Being current in fashion is going to be much more important than say here with fundamental business advice.
Make Yourself Readily Available
Here’s the other thing. Make sure you actually respond to comments, emails, and posts from your followers. If you don’t engage, they won’t either. And if they’re not engaging, how do you even know they’re there?
Also, be sure to post in as many places as you can. Pat used to have a piece of advice to “be everywhere”. He still might say that, but you can only be in so many places. Choose the a few that you can readily post to (blogging, Facebook, YouTube, etc.) and stick with those.
Followers Do Count – Sorta
There’s two schools of thought on whether the number of followers actually count when it comes to social media.
However, if you’re looking to bring in more followers, then perhaps it does count. You can’t have engagement without having followers in the first place, right? Would you rather follow and/or pay attention to someone who has 100 followers or 1000?
Action Steps
So there you go. A few ways that you can start working on today that will help you boost your appeal to potential new clients.
Differentiating yourself can make all the difference in the online space.
Are there any methods that I forgot? Let me know below if you can think of any!
Bonus
For you deep thinkers, I’ll leave you with this TEDx talk of Julian Baggini:
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For many of us creators, we do things because we have a passion for it.
The question often is, how do we monetize something we enjoy doing without taking the fun out of it? Or, if we’re doing it because we see it as a mission – how do we keep from tainting that mission?
Like today’s guest, I believe, if done right, you can take something you love to do and make a living doing it.
That’s why I believe in Fizzle so much. That’s exactly what they teach people to do.
In this session, Laila and I sit down with an entrepreneur who has taken his passion of geeking out as Jack Sparrow to another level.
He gets paid to actually impersonate Jack as Long Jon Sparrow.
In today’s chat with Jon Boersma, we find out what inspired him to impersonate Captain Jack Sparrow, how much of his work was learned from formal education vs being self taught, and we dive a bit into how knowing about the 4 basic personalities have helped him in his career and how others can apply the same info to their lives.
As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!
SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:
What inspired Jon to do a Captain Jack Sparrow impersonation in the first place? 8:40
Where did he get the help to come up with his costume? 11:43
When was Jon first bitten by the entrepreneur bug? 14:45
Where did his company, Horizons, come from? 16:05
How much of his work is formal education vs self taught skills? 17:43
How did he get started with Super Gainz Fitness? 23:23
When did his business really take off? 26:22
What’s the deal with his project Business to Arts, Arts to Business? 31:08
Does Jon deal with any copyright issues with impersonation? 34:28
What’s some more info on the personalities and how can they help in someone’s career? 36:23
What are some of the things that Jon’s looking forward to in 2017? 43:11
Three books that he tells others about. 46:47
What social norm has taken a 180 degree turn in the past 10 years? 48:50
What’s the smallest decision Jon’s made that has had the largest impact on his life? 57:26
If he woke up tomorrow as his 10 year old self with all of his memories intact, what would he do? 59:42
What’s the secret to achieving personal freedom? 1:01:14
Prince EA: Everybody Dies, But Not Everybody Lives:
Shawn Achor: The Happy Secret to Better Work
Alyson Tabbitha’s Jack Sparrow Transformation/Tutorial:
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Networking is vital to building your reach as a creator. Whether you’re starting a nonprofit, a business, or just wanting to build awareness of whatever else you might be doing, you’re going to have grow your network.
In this post, I’m going to share with you how you can start meeting like minded people today. This is the first step in building key relationships to help expand your community, audience, and/or business.
Get Started Locally
Many people in business are used to going to networking meetings in their local area. BNI, Toastmasters, and the Rotary are just a clubs you can meet other business owners. The great part about these particular clubs is that they’re everywhere.
There are a couple of places where you start looking for groups with similar interests to yours: meetup.com & eventbrite.com. The events that you might find might not be down the street, but they’ll be worth the drive.
For example, when I was first getting my feet wet when it came to entrepreneurship here in Indy, I would go to 3+ meetings a month where entrepreneurs could get together and discuss the newest and coolest things.
After a while, what I came to find out, especially here in Indy, was that I would tend to see the same people each week.
That’s great if what you’re looking to do is build solid foundational relationships. In fact, you might need to start there. However, after a while, the same people can only help you get your reach so far.
You need to keep meeting new people.
When you start feeling the itch to expand, it’s time to change things up.
Getting Out Of Your Town
Going to Conventions
For most industries, the way to meet people has been to gather in places where the leaders of the industries would gather. Conventions have been a part of history for a very long time. Maybe not to the extent that they are today, but they’ve been there.
When people think of conventions, they might think of something like Comic Con or CES. (Both are two that I want to check out before too long.)
I’ve been to my fair share of conventions. When the second trilogy of the Star Wars movies was coming out, I went to a Star Wars convention here in Indy called Celebration. A couple of years later, I went to a few trade shows, and then I started going to a series of business conventions.
Going to events like these – especially to those that you have a deep interest in topics discussed there – is one of the best feelings you can feel. I’m not sure how to entirely describe the feeling, but the best way that I can describe it is like going to a toy store (Toys ‘R Us for me) when you were in middle school.
You understand what it means to be there and there’s just so much potential of what could be.
The big difference between going to a toy store and going to a convention is that when you go to a convention, there’s other people there who are like you. They might have an audience already and doing what you want to do or they might be at your same level and have a missing piece to what you’re wanting to start.
Either way, conventions are a quick way to find people that understand you, think like you, and believe in what you’re doing as a creator.
Social Media:
While nothing can really replace the feeling of going to a convention, you can come close to the after effects (connecting with people) if you learn how to network on social media.
There’s a reason why you can max out your friends list on Facebook at 5000 people. Facebook really doesn’t expect you to really have that many deep relationships. However, they know there will be types of people who want to have as many connections as they can. Whether that’s for business or just for the heck of it, Facebook lets you do it.
So, if you’re a business owner or some other type of creator who wants to get their work known, don’t be afraid to network on Facebook.
For the last couple of years, ever since you had to pay for your page’s posts to reach more than 5% of your audience, groups have been making a huge comeback.
Luckily for you, there’s groups of all kinds.
If you want to build relationships outside of your town, you can start today. Just open up Facebook, search for something you’re interested in, find a group that looks somewhat alive, and then add value to the conversation.
Do that upwards of 20 some times (over a month) and people will know you provide value. Keep doing it over a few months, and you might actually start getting traction in that group as being a figure who knows what they’re talking about!
As you’re engaging in those groups, feel free to add people as friends if they seem like they’re cool. Chances are they’ll accept and you can carry the conversation on outside of the group.
Making It Happen
Eventually you’re going to want to meet with people in person. Whether that’s face to face or through something like Skype, you’ll need to find a time to meet up with someone that you’ve started engaging with.
The Traditional Method:
When you’re looking to meetup with someone you’ve met outside of the usual events or groups you engage in, you might have an idea to send them an email to meet up. You send a few back and forth and you come up with a date and time to get together.
Then, you’re probably going to record it somewhere – unless you have a really good memory.
If you’re a busy person and have lots of meetings, or just like to keep track of things in a calendar, you might use one on your phone, computer, or perhaps online. For me, I use Google calendar for just about everything these days.
It wasn’t always that way. When I had a very repetitive schedule, I had no reason to use one.
Funny enough, I only started using a calendar when I had to start booking guests to interview on my podcast.
And now, I’ll just say it’s easier to write things down in a calendar then it is to try to remember all the events I have to be at or write them down on random pieces of paper.
A quick note: Always get the person’s email that you’re booking a meeting with. That way you can invite them through Google Calendar. This acts as sort of a confirmation that you’re actually putting it in your calendar. If they weren’t already, they’ll take you more seriously this way.
Automate It:
Since many podcasters have guests on their show like me, they have to set recording sessions on a regular basis.
Having to send multiple emails or messages and writing down the agreed upon date can take up a fair amount of time – especially if it’s repeated over and over.
To help gain back some of that time, there have been a few tools created over the years which can make this process much easier.
Calendly.com If you’re a host and you have a set schedule each week, then Calendly could definitely become one of your favorite tools. All you do is connect it to your Google calendar and let it know what types and length of meetings you’re wanting to do.
After that, it will give you a link to share with people you want to meet with. Once you give it to them, they choose a time and you don’t have to have a trail of emails. Again, pretty handy if you have a set schedule each week!
Doodle.com This tool is one of my favorites because I have co-hosts who I work into the show whenever possible. It’s a solution for for more than 2 people. Instead of connecting this to your calendar, you manually pick a few dates and times you’re available to meet. Then, you share a poll with the other people you’re interested in meeting with. They vote on the times that they can get together and if a time has everyone match, that’s the one you choose to get together on.
There are other tools that are very similar to Calendly and Doodle, but I haven’t used them, so I can’t readily tell you the difference. Both of these do what I want them to do when needed!
Action Steps
Back in 2010 when I first started on my journey, groups on Facebook (or LinkedIn for that matter) weren’t as common as they are today. There’s literally no reason why you can’t start building your network today.
Here’s a few steps for you if you haven’t been leveraging Facebook to it’s fullest potential.
Clean up your profile. Make it look like it’s a run by someone who cares about how they present themselves to the world. If it’s easier to start another “professional” account, then do that instead. Make sure it’s filled out so that you appear as if you’re real.
Add 5 groups that you think are in your realm of expertise.
Look for conversations you can add value to and do it. Don’t force yourself onto conversation you know nothing about. 😉
After a couple of days of engagement, feel free to add up to five people from the group. If they ask you about a new account (provided you made one in step 1), let them know the truth – you’re original profile is too cool for the group! 🙂
Anyhow, hope that helps you build out your network guys. Let me know if you’re struggling. Remember, the more friends you have that are building the same types of things you are, the faster you all will get to where you’re going.
Bonus Video on Booking Yourself Solid:
If you want to set up more potential client meetings, head on over to Fizzle and check out the course by Book Yourself Solid guru Jason Billows.
Here’s an interview of him with Paul McManus to give you a taste of what he’s about:
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For many creators, money isn’t the driving force for them in their craft.
They do it simply out of the joy that it brings them.
It’s been said that being successful is about being great at doing something, not necessarily pursuing to be great in itself.
Being great is a very vague goal.
In this chat with Claude Errera, we find that he built Halo.Bungie.Org (HBO) because he wanted there to be a place to discuss Halo (and to practice code for his day job as a website developer).
Not because he wanted to make a profit off of all the fans of Halo.
What did that plan and goal get him?
Well, at it’s peak, we find that HBO had over half a million visitors a day.
In today’s chat, JC speaks with Claude about how HBO got started, what he does as his day job, and some of the things he’s learned as father of HBO which will help others build their own communities.
Maybe you can apply some of his knowledge to your new business or passion project!
Enjoy!
SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:
What Claude is known as on HBO and why he chose that alias. 9:56
Why did he want to start HBO in the first place? 12:57
How did HBO become structured as it was and is? 15:57
What does Claude do as an actual online entrepreneur? 18:58
How did HBO get some successful in the first place? 24:03
Was there ever a time where he thought he’d pass it on or have it pay for itself? 26:17
What has been his relation with Rooster Teeth over the years since RvB first started? 30:23
Are there any other successes that he’s been able to watch grow in success? 34:51
What are some steps that Claude would take to duplicate the success he had with HBO? 38:19
What tactics does he employ to prevent himself from becoming a complete fan of something? 41:30
What’s he looking forward to (or not) in 2017? 44:24
Claude’s top 3 favorite books and/or movies he tells others about. 37:42
Smallest decision he’s made that has had the largest impact on his life? 47:30
Three truths he’s found out over time that he’d want others to know. 48:27
Who does he think of when thinks of the word success and why? 50:01
Claude is interviewed first time on video while talking to dboTV’s Duncan about PAX 2013:
Claude’s house party scene via the Making of Halo 2 DVD:
For Fans of Bungie: Claude is interviewed on Guardian Radio about Destiny and Bungie:
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We live in a time where we’re kind of made to believe that everyone has an agenda. Everyone is out to get something. That all actions that a person takes is to further that particular agenda.
Is that really the case, though?
By watching the political pundits or just the evening news, you’d think that everyone is constantly writing their own future. They’re checking and rechecking their actions to see if it will yield what they’re looking to get.
For the most part, this makes sense.
You should have a plan for what you’re wanting to achieve.
However, there’s one thing that I’ve learned in the last few years that I think will benefit you guys greatly.
Don’t use people as tools to get where you want to get.
“Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.” -Alexis Carell
Karma Is Real
I’m sure you’ve been in a place where you’ve realized the very fact that karma does indeed exist. What goes around does, in fact, come around. Even if it’s not exactly on the time frame that we’d want it to.
Just this past weekend, Maria had a drill weekend with her new National Guard unit. Due to her rank, she’s in charge of several people. One of her subordinates, who’s originally from the unit, is well, not one of the nicest guys.
He’s definitely the type that has his own plan and from what I can tell, uses others to get what he wants. Whether it’s through having them do stuff for him or tearing them down, he uses other people as tools.
Well, to make a long story short, Maria knows that he has a grudge against her because when she was promoted from her old unit, she ended up taking the spot that he thought he was going to get. So he tries to make her look bad regularly.
This weekend, she came to learn that she was going to have to take her physical training (PT) exam again because somehow she had low scores from her last assessment – technically meaning that she failed her last one.
She’s never failed a PT test before. And even if she would, it wouldn’t be because of what she was failed on.
Guess who was in charge of the assessment? That’s right, her subordinate.
And, guess who eagerly jumped at the opportunity to lead the PT exams this past weekend? Yup, again, her soldier.
Luckily for her, she didn’t need to retest this weekend. She’ll have another go soon. No problem.
And as far her soldier, there was a promotion ceremony this weekend as well. And another soldier who had the same rank as Maria’s actually was promoted to the next position instead of her soldier. He really believed that he was going to get it.
As reality was setting in, Maria said you could just see him getting redder and redder while they were in formation.
Karma is real.
Scarcity vs Abundance
So why was it that Maria and her soldier are in the different positions that they find themselves?
Sure, both of them have to take classes to be eligible to be promoted. Which means they both have to plan and sacrifice to take those classes. So they’re both putting in the work to get it done.
But the difference is Maria approaches the situation with a perception of abundance, while her soldier approached the situation with a scarcity viewpoint.
Sure, there’s only so many positions available, so technically you could see it as a competition. But, because she works her own tail off to get in those places without tearing down other people, that’s why she made the position before he did.
She got the position by adding value to her previous unit, not by asking “how can I use others to get what I want?”.
In other words, even though it’s easier to knock down others in attempt to get what you want, the real winners are those that build themselves up.
Put in the extra work.
That crap doesn’t fly in the military.
I know, first hand, it doesn’t work too well in academia. And it certainly doesn’t fly for long in the entrepreneurial world.
I’ve gotten so many more good relationships through building New Inceptions than anything I’ve done in the past because I’ve used it as a springboard to help other people.
Whether it’s their first podcast that they’ve ever been a guest for, or it’s the first time they’ve ever been a host, helping people and not expecting anything in return has been very rewarding in getting to where I am currently.
Action Steps
The next time you’re forced to make a decision about doing the hard work, going out of your way to help someone, or doing the easy thing and undermining someone else, remember this.
Society makes it seem like the only way someone can get ahead is by using others as tools to get to where you want to go. Especially if you’re a sports fan. There’s always going to be a loser.
The truth is, though, is that there’s enough to go around for everyone. The more you help other people, the more you automatically get in return.
Heck, you might even go on an adventure in the process!!
Bonus
Here’s more from Rory Sutherland on how a change of perspective can change other aspects of your life – including happiness.
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